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Interesting case.
On one hand - I agree. I know a couple dudes in this spot. She said don't use birth control, it's safe, she gets pregnant, she says you don't need to pay anything, I don't want you in my life... and then boom, his wages are getting garnished even though, true to her word, she doesn't want him in her life. Or her son's.
It's really, really fucked up.
On the other hand - men CAN skip out. Women can't. If they don't believe in abortion, they have to carry the baby, give birth to the baby. And then they have to raise a baby they weren't prepared to raise OR give it up. Both (all three?) are life-altering decisions, and I've seen friends go all possible ways on this one. No matter what the choice, the scars never fade.
It's really, really fucked up.
Oh, but you know what the fundies say? Just don't have sex! Nice girls don't without a ring, don't you know! Though that's not true and never was true and never will be true no matter how many Bible-thumping assholes try to claim otherwise. Girls were virgins when they got married back when they got married at fifteen, and even then "eight month miracles" weren't terribly rare. In societies where you're not supposed to do it without the wedding ring, women suffer horribly (see also religious extremist Middle Eastern societies) and men get a free pass. It's not like getting pregnant with a ring is any guarantee the man won't leave.
It's really, really fucked up.
But what about teaching kids that both the boys AND the girls have equal responsibilities? If she says she's on the pill, wear a condom. If he says the condom hasn't been in his wallet since his dad punched him on the shoulder and handed it over five years ago, whip out the spermicidal jelly.
LEGALIZE THE FUCKING MORNING AFTER PILL AND MAKE IT SO WIDELY ACCESSIBLE THAT WE DON'T NEED TO BE RUINING EACH OTHER'S LIVES AND THE LIVES OF CHILDREN OVER BAD JUDGMENT AND POOR IMPULSE CONTROL.
I can't feel too sorry for the schlub in the court case. He should have worn a condom anyway - what about disease, for crying out loud? But an eighteen year sentence is more than crack dealers and armed robbers get. He's just an idiot.
So is she.
On one hand - I agree. I know a couple dudes in this spot. She said don't use birth control, it's safe, she gets pregnant, she says you don't need to pay anything, I don't want you in my life... and then boom, his wages are getting garnished even though, true to her word, she doesn't want him in her life. Or her son's.
It's really, really fucked up.
On the other hand - men CAN skip out. Women can't. If they don't believe in abortion, they have to carry the baby, give birth to the baby. And then they have to raise a baby they weren't prepared to raise OR give it up. Both (all three?) are life-altering decisions, and I've seen friends go all possible ways on this one. No matter what the choice, the scars never fade.
It's really, really fucked up.
Oh, but you know what the fundies say? Just don't have sex! Nice girls don't without a ring, don't you know! Though that's not true and never was true and never will be true no matter how many Bible-thumping assholes try to claim otherwise. Girls were virgins when they got married back when they got married at fifteen, and even then "eight month miracles" weren't terribly rare. In societies where you're not supposed to do it without the wedding ring, women suffer horribly (see also religious extremist Middle Eastern societies) and men get a free pass. It's not like getting pregnant with a ring is any guarantee the man won't leave.
It's really, really fucked up.
But what about teaching kids that both the boys AND the girls have equal responsibilities? If she says she's on the pill, wear a condom. If he says the condom hasn't been in his wallet since his dad punched him on the shoulder and handed it over five years ago, whip out the spermicidal jelly.
LEGALIZE THE FUCKING MORNING AFTER PILL AND MAKE IT SO WIDELY ACCESSIBLE THAT WE DON'T NEED TO BE RUINING EACH OTHER'S LIVES AND THE LIVES OF CHILDREN OVER BAD JUDGMENT AND POOR IMPULSE CONTROL.
I can't feel too sorry for the schlub in the court case. He should have worn a condom anyway - what about disease, for crying out loud? But an eighteen year sentence is more than crack dealers and armed robbers get. He's just an idiot.
So is she.
posted by Sanya at 11:08 PM
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